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Thursday, September 6, 2007
Let's look briefly at the actual relational and social dynamics that are going on so we can understand more of this phenomenon. This way maybe you can prevent being the guy your beautiful girl-friend cries her shoulder on about the jerk she's seeing. Instead you can be the 'all around guy' that she ends up getting physical with for both the benefit of both of you. Today's women are living in a paradox. They often can't even explain why they do what they do. Everything logically tells them one thing; to GO for the really 'nice guy' who brings her presents and has a lot to offer. Unfortunately, almost always (unless she's a gold-digger who wants to use him) her heart isn't into it. She doesn't have 'feelings' for this kind of guy. Sure it appeals to the popular social ideal that's proported in music and movies, but when did that help you or her out? I mean, are you really looking to get married with a woman starting from the first date? You don't even know her yet! Times have changed his our grandfather's courted our grandmothers! Society basically promotes the edification of the woman; chasing her, putting her before you and essentially on a pedestal. She's the 'prize' to catch, but all of this gives her the power and favor in the relationship which isn't natural. This is also taught to us by our mothers so that 'nice guys' would become good, caring husbands. So many men have taken this advice seriously (because it's also promoted in movies, music and t.v.) that we now have a social pandemic of epic proportions. Throw into the mix that society has reversed the social power and given it to women while at the same time repressing these men even further, and you've got more of a relational mess. None of these nice guys are right for the girl because they're coming on too strong too soon (for a long-term relationship) and primarily because though the women can take the guy to her parents, she doesn't feel attracted to him. She now has more freedom than ever and with social influence like 'Sex and the City' she wants to have fun and be casual. She wants to get to know a guy instead of being pressured into a marriage type relationship with him before knowing him. So what is left for a woman's physical freedom? The (now-glorified) outcasts. The bad boys, jerks, a-holes, etc. who didn't care about mainstream social programming, therefore weren't affected by it like the mainstream men. These guys have maintained their natural character and haven't been influenced or altered to fit any social norms. Thus, they are the closest thing to being a man and the women are attracted to these guys because they can trust them to be themselves. When the woman can trust a man to be himself, she can open herself up around him because she knows what she's getting. She can trust him to be him for who he is. The bad boys and jerks are living in their own reality. They're not subject to the doctrine of mainstream society so they don't let that get in the way of just being natural. All men and women instinctively know the mating process; social influence (and then the inner belief of that social influence) has just got in the way. The runt of the litter starts believing he actually IS disfavored and undesirable when it was really just his social environment that influenced him. You don't have to learn how to have success with women and dating. You have to UNLEARN everything that has corrupted your ability to know what to do. It's time for millions of these mainstream men who really DO have long-term value to step up and understand relational dynamics so that they can give women what they want; a real man. Not the jellyfish-backboned manboy who caters to her every whim and desire. The shift hasn't happened yet on a mass scale, but when more men start stepping up, women will then be able to prefer these guys over the outcasts. Women have to be attracted to a man and this is her own natural and biological character; it's the opposite of her own social conditioning. Apply Alpha Relational Dynamics and you can be the man that women want and you can frame the type of relationships you want and they can take it or leave it; join you or not. You can take them away from the tremendous social pressures they are going through and literally HAVE TO uphold. Otherwise they'll go back to their romance novels, vibrators, and ice cream. Listening to social programming even more is just damaging. You have the power to differentiate yourself from it and re-frame your entire reality so that you have the same power as a bad boy without all of the bad drama. Then you'll have the dating success you deserve. -Rion Williams Power Dynamics of Dating and Seduction To be an effective ladies man, this is what you have to do (it all boils down to this): Take them from their being the 'stimulus' to their being the response to your natural and masculine character. When you can convert them from being a prickteasing, overrated, socially desired woman to the innocent, responsive, enthralled little girl inside - that is seduction. A woman's true sexual nature is her natural character. It is NOT her sexually exploited or social character which is akin to porn videos. Remember the National Geographic women? That is an example of natural women without any level of extreme social influence. Compare that to today's Ashlee Simpson clones. Today's women that you want to instantly sleep with the second you see, are accentuating and exploiting their sexuality to trigger men to 'respond'. They have learned and adapted to this from their own social environment. None of this is natural. Social influence is now a great game of power and influence. It is no longer our tribal societies where we banded together for the common good. You ability to differentiate that is incredibly powerful. By saying that we are social creatures, you're dooming yourself to be a pawn that is subject to the power and influence of someone who is higher than you in the now social power game and hierarchy. And when you're a pawn at the low end of this social hierarchy, you don't have much power or choice when you play that game. It's similar to the tax advantages an employee has; hardly any because you're stuck in a relationship which you're not clearly aware of. Any woman with no true character can now become a soft porn clone. She can dress, act, look, accentuate, talk and behave like her high social status role models. Doing this means she'll have instant attention from men because she is leveraging this social power to be the 'stimulus' for men who have been conditioned to automatically respond to this exploitation of women. So when it comes to succeeding with these women for physical relationships or dating, if a man is acknowledging the social hierarchy that she is above him, he doesn't stand a chance except fools mate. Why? Because he is lower down on the social hierarchy and women expect men at their level or above in relational power. He's the lower status 'response' who is someone trying to 'get some' of her massive desired (exploited) sexuality. Whoever has the most power (the woman here) can easily say no with no sense of loss. She's the prize and despite what society promotes, it's all a great big fantasy. It's not what she wants either. To be a true seducer, you're concerned with that which really matters; the natural game of attraction. That means you will put aside the contrived hierarchical power game because you don't take part in it and instead you see the woman for who she REALLY is on the inside. You look for her truth within and bring that out of her. Her inner character may be overwhelming as well but it's not even that..it's the true feminine core within her that knows how to respond to a strong man. It's her guaranteed biology within that overrules all level of social development or someone else's power game in which she is taking a part of. So to seduce these women, don't play the game of disempowerment where you ARE lower than her on the hierarchy and then have to determine higher value, break her down, be cocky, etc. just to EQUALIZE your power in relation to her. Instead, be truly EQUAL or greater in relational power in the first place. In fact you HAVE TO BE to have anything other than here and there success (especially with the MOST desired and beautiful women). There doesn't have to be any tricks or techniques because all those guys (most of the seduction community) are trying to do is just level out the power in the relationship anyways so that it can officially begin. I teach you to actually BE equal or greater in relational power in the first place so that you don't have to waste time with proving yourself of playing the power game; instead you can move ahead and they'll be helping you to seduce them because they finally met a man who gets it and who they can 'trust' to respond to. From there, it will be a lot easier for her to put her logic aside because she can trust you to be yourself, then she will starting representing and bringing out her natural and responsive character with your leading. -Rion Williams The Two-Way Street of Flirting and Attraction Why do so many guys have a hard time with approaching women and flirting? Besides the causally-rooted social influence itself, it's because women forgot how to play the flirting game. When a woman is showing no signs of interest and is being dismissive and aloof like millions of them are today, they're not giving their own dating lives any help. They'll go to a Starbucks and instead of giving off signs to guys they're interested in, will stay stuck in their iPOD or their laptop essentially expecting guys to do all of the work. Meanwhile they ask 'why can't I meet any men?' Yet there are dozens of great options everytime they go there. It's right in front of them and they can't even see it. It's time that women started helping men out because the natural way of attraction is called flirting. It's a sexual communication between a man and a woman. Basically how it works is this; the man walks in and shouldn't have to do anything. From there, women will start picking up his characteristics and if they're interested they will send nonverbal signals back that are subtle yet obvious enough to let the guy know that it's ok to approach. Millions of women have turned off their receptor cells and ability to play the flirting game. Unfortunately they have become like brick walls. The man is nonverbally sending out his S.O.N.A.R.R. (science of natural attraction/response) or 'signal' but it's often never getting bounced back by these independent and developed women. Thus everything becomes a challenge. This is a root of why there are now more singles than ever. How can I dare say such a thing? Call it cultural differentiation. In a first world country, everyone is too independent and not interdependent enough. They're too stuck in their own world. Women will wear iPOD's and not show ANY signs of interest even in guys that they know they are interested in. This further makes them more frustrated. Because this is such a social pandemic now, few of these people can explain their behavior. Cultural differentiation from all of this was the one thing that saved me from utter confusion. Here is just an amazingly true concept. As a man you're supposed to be the same man before, during and after any interaction with women and staying high in character. Now; as a man, you can go in all kinds of different environments and you'll receive all kinds of different responses to absolutely no responses. Today's women are often so disconnected and cold that a Tom Cruise could walk in and they wouldn't even know it was him if they didn't know before. They've forgotten how to play the game because of all of their independent development. So if you walk into some environments like I have without doing anything, you're treated as a rock star, other environments will women be actually throwing obvious nonverbal signs back at you to let you know it's ok to approach and then other environments you could be the best looking, highest character guy in the world and the independent, women won't give you more than a glance. I mean is it YOU? You're (ideally) staying the same high character man at all of those times. That's why you don't EVER depend on any environment to dictate who you are. You have to know who you are and know your relationship to anything or any event that could happen. You'll know that it's not going to change who you are and you can't depend on the completely variable responses of women or environments. Can you see why millions of men are frustrated (like I was)? And those are with the aloof and dismissive Prada 'Inner Alpha' women. The Social Alpha women are more apt to pricktease instead of flirt which confuses men even more and doesn't help the women either. Prickteasing is the socially contrived act of sexual communication. Flirting is the natural act of communication. So many men are confused more with women who will pricktease a man into thinking she is flirting with him when she was either just toying around or planning on ditching him anyways. It comes down to this; flirting is the natural act of sexual communication and it's a two way street. It's not up to the man alone to do all of the work and entertain a woman. It's also not entirely his fault to take ALL of the burden for the behaviorism that current society has conditioned into the women. It's up to him to understand the difference between flirting and prickteasing. It's up to him to clear away the confusion so that he can liberate his own lifetime of oppression when it comes to dating. -Rion Williams |
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